“You are destined to live a narrow and mean life if you learn to love only those who love you. Human love may indeed be reciprocal, but divine love is outgoing in all its satisfaction-seeking. [. . .] Love is never self-seeking, and it cannot be self-bestowed. Divine love cannot be self-contained; it must be unselfishly bestowed. [UB, 156:5.11]
Thought Adjuster: “
“To humankind, the nature of love is an enigma that gets solved in small increments. Because babies and toddlers co-depend on their caretakers for their livelihood, their initial contact with the love substance occurs at its receiving end. As they grow up in emotional selfhood, they progress toward the other end of the love spectrum.
Just as there are open- and small-minded individuals, there are open-hearted givers and small-hearted takers. The tender-hearted category contributes to the collective wellbeing, while the hardened-hearted one operates on a me-first or what-is-there-in-for-me basis. In the midway position are those who only spend their scarce love currency on the easy-to-love, neglecting the hard-to-love whose challenging behavior turns out to be an urgent cry for love and compassionate attention.
Because of your evolutionary nature, life will introduce you to the various facets of love. The hormonal changes of adulthood trigger a new range of love impulses. Parenthood is another rite of passage in heart expansion, as it fosters the development of the divine attributes of patience and tolerance.
Take your encounters with others as opportunities to expand your love capacity. Dig for the gold in them, rather than being deterred by the surface dirt.
In a divine leap of faith, the Father fragments himself to indwell each of you. Shouldn’t it convince you beyond any reasonable doubt that all are love-worthy? Ask him to shine his powerful spotlight on their inner beauty. Thus doing, you will get to know him better and better, as each shining facet of their personality is a reflection of his sublime nature.
In your eternal quest for godlikeness, as you move on to other realms of inner and outer exploration, you will reach the point where your love will be ‘outgoing in all its satisfaction-seeking.’ You will have come all the long way, baby!”